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Monday, 29 December 2008
If Facebook deleted your photo...
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Sunday, 28 December 2008
Censored, by Facebook
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Wednesday, 24 December 2008
Merry Christmas Janipher
Sunday, 21 December 2008
The Christmas Posts
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Breastfeeding mum slams woman for her insults in cathedral
AN Exeter mother has spoken out after being insulted for breastfeeding her baby at a church service.
Nicola Wood, 27, from the city centre, said she was hurt and angered by the rude remarks made by a woman during a Christmas carol service at Exeter Cathedral.
She said: "I was at the cathedral with a friend and her baby, listening to the music, which was beautiful.
"My little boy Theo, who is six months old, was getting hungry, so I started to breastfeed him, but all I could hear was a woman a few pews back moaning and saying, 'oh my God, how disgusting'.
"It ruined the whole service for me. Then she came up to me at the end of the service and said, 'as long as this cathedral has been open I have never seen anyone as disgusting as you in church. You might as well have been naked and peeing in the church'.
"She said it was the most disrespectful thing in the world and that I was disgusting for feeding my baby, but breastfeeding is the most natural, God-given way of feeding a child, and I was very discreet about it. What she said was so unchristian."
Nicola added that several other women who heard the conversation offered support.
"A woman said to me not to listen to the other woman. She said my baby was gorgeous and that he made her smile. Other mothers come up to us as well, saying how well behaved the children were and how wonderful it was to see young people at the cathedral.
"What that woman did really annoys me. I'm quite religious, and it is only recently I have been trying church again. You can see why snooty-nosed women like this put a barrier between you and God.
"I am going to write to the Dean. I'm really hurt."
Tracey Bailey, a health visitor and breast feeding trainer for Devon Primary Care Trust, said the public should support and encourage mothers who breastfeed.
"I am really sad to hear what happened to Nicola," she said.
"There are numerous health benefits in breastfeeding, for both mother and child, and it is the best and most natural way to feed your baby.
"In my experience, a lot of mums are concerned about breastfeeding in public, but for the majority they are able to do it without any problems.
"Soon there is going to be the New Equality Bill, which will legally protect breastfeeding in public. It will make it illegal for anybody to undermine breastfeeding in public.
"We need to raise awareness that people should be supportive of breastfeeding mothers.
"I'm sure Jesus was breastfed and all the old paintings always show Mary breastfeeding Jesus
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Tuesday, 2 December 2008
World AIDS Day & HIV mothers in the UK
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* Affordable?
Monday, 1 December 2008
Festive Baubles - buy a calender! Buy Two!
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.Some of the groups, such as Baby Milk Action, will also offer you last year's calender for under half price. Think about this - if you buy it, you get 12 superb photographs/posters, very very cheaply. You up profits on previous print runs, and you free up storage space. Know anyone pregnant? Giving any talks or peer group meetings? How often have you thought "I could use a nice picture now, to pin to this wall whilst people file past..." Buy last year's calender. If all else fails, it's excellent wrapping paper for a maternity gift!
You will get a lovely warm glow inside... and 12 superb posters. And no, there isn't a big black box on them - that's just for the internet!
The message here, today, is... if you can only afford one calender... buy the IBFAN one. Every penny you spend, will be used wisely, and well. How often can you say that?
Other areas, and regions, also produce their own breastfeeding calenders. My searching found two lovely ones, both in the USA. Unfortunately, my searching hasn't yet found out how to buy them! I actually did the research on this a few weeks back, and found that New Mexico, and Sonomo Country California, hold competitions etc, on putting together their next year's calender. So I can show you images of the 2009 from both...
But neither site have let us into the secret of how to purchase them yet..
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Although New Mexico now has an eddress to contact!.
.There are much more gift options available, of course, than simply buying yourself a stunning calender. Baby Milk Action does a wide range of postcards, t-shirts, mugs, magnets and cotton shopping bags, all in support of defending babies and their health. One of the most thoughtful gifts I received this year, personally, was someone who sent me a mug from Baby Milk Action, as a thank you. I felt warm and touchy feely and acknowledged, and thrilled that the same gift went in protecting babies too. It's a lot of bang for very little buck.
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The holiday season is a time for giving - give yourself something nice to look at for the entire year. If all else fails, give one to someone who is giving you grief about breastfeeding! Many an office wall will look the better for having the IBFAN calender proudly displayed! ;-)
Wednesday, 26 November 2008
La Leche League Update
Tuesday, 25 November 2008
The BBC, promoting Fear & Misinformation...
Wednesday, 12 November 2008
Be A Star - Update
Back in March, I did a post on the Be A Star campaign. I felt it was one of the best designed, and well founded breastfeeding awareness campaigns I'd ever seen. Read the original post, for why I feel it's such a 'vital' campaign.
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Be A Star is currently undertaking an evaluation, to take stock of how effective the campaign has been. The results will be analysed and used to determine if the 'buzz' created by the posters, leaflets, radio ads etc, has been effective in actually encouraging, or sustaining, breastfeeding.
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As part of the evaluation, there is a survey is for anyone who has seen the campaign. It's one page long, and takes approx 2 minutes to complete. You can find it here. It's vital that health campaigns are assessed rigorously for evidence of their results - and it's not just that people already converted 'like' them. So if you saw the campaign, even only through the blog and then went and looked at the website, please fill in a survey. Do your bit! There is actually a category for seeing the campaign on a website, or blog, so the internet exposure element will be assessed too. :-)
Tuesday, 4 November 2008
Just Call Me Daisy - voting opens
and everywhere, deliberately.
Showing how it's done.
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Milk drawn from deep inside,
complete openess, eyes drinking,
moments that are imprinted.
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Skin to skin, feeling
utter satisfaction, gently drifting,
sleepily falling, into dreamland.
Saturday, 1 November 2008
A Stitch In Time...
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Or to be precise, Jeremy Oppenheim, the outgoing Children's Champion to the Home Office, has stated that what happened with Baby C wasn't acceptable. In his own words...
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Your first concern is that no infant should be deprived of food for 14 hours and particularly not while in an Immigration Removal Centre. Further you believe that more could and should have been done to ensure that the necessary formula did not run out and more effort should have been made to obtain new supplies promptly when it did. I can confirm in writing as I did at our meeting that I agree with you on all of these points.
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If that sounds a little sticky, and not-quite-an-apology, I'd advise you to go read the full text of his letter. It's a long and detailed response, taking time and effort to meticulously document the objections that myself and Alison Blenkinsop have raised with the Home Office, time and again, since this debacle erupted. It also documents the struggle everyone has undertaken in getting this issue dealt with, and it acknowledges the effort that was made by all of us. and by all of us, I mean you to, as the contacting and re-contacting of MPs over this, was clearly of real importance in getting this result.
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Since the event occurred you have spent considerable time writing to and telephoning the agency about your concerns. You did not receive a response that satisfied you. You approached Members of Parliament who wrote on your behalf. The responses they received did not reassure you. You met Yarls Wood staff together with Morgan Gallagher. At that meeting you thought that the staff minimised your concerns regarding the lack of necessary food for the infant. They therefore could not reassure you that a similar incident would not occur again. Following this meeting there were further delays before your meeting with me.
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The letter is addressed to Alison Blenkinsop, and I'll explain a little about that. This sequence is important, if you want to get an understanding of how, and why, these things both happen with UK Gov, and aren't then actioned upon. So pay attention. :-) The devil is in the detail...
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When both Alison and I became aware that the Home Office had been sending letters out to MPs, reassuring them that the situation was under control, and naming Alison personally, in her role as a member of the Lactation Consultants of Great Britain.. and stating she and Brian Pollett and Jeremy Oppenheim were to have a meeting.. a meeting that had never been arranged, or spoken about... she contacted Meg Hillier at the Home Office, and asked for an explanation. Why was her name in this letter sent to MPs, and why were MPs being informed of a meeting that didn't exist?
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Meg Hillier never responded. Jeremy Oppenheim's office, did, several days later. Only to Alison, not to myself. It was a request for a meeting. By this time, we'd discovered that two versions of the "everything is under control" letter had been going out to MPs, from two different people at the Home Office. The text had been copied and pasted from one letter to the other. And had been sent out over a span of several weeks, to different MPs who had written requesting an answer to the issue of Baby C going unfed.
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Alison responded to this request, by demanding that it was clear upfront, what was going to be discussed. After the horrendous meeting at Yarl's Wood we'd both attended in early September (that we were forbidden from quoting) neither she, nor I, were prepared to attend more of the same, without reassurances.
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Answer came there none.
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Several days passed. Alison again contacted Meg Hillier's office, and requested clarification.
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Answer came there none.
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Last week, she got a phone call from Jeremy Oppenheim, who is leaving office to take up a new role in the Government, stating he was in her area and could she attend a meeting that afternoon? Alison agreed, and off she went.
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I wasn't at the meeting, but Alison felt it went very well, and fed back elements to me, and stated that Jeremy Oppenheim had promised the same in writing. Which duly arrived on Friday, and is the letter above.
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So if the letter looks ungainly, and super step-by-step detailed, I'd reassure you that it is in order to reflect the torturous path we've taken, to get to this point.
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Importantly, it acknowledges what we've all been so incensed about. Not so much the dire mistakes that led to the baby going hungry, but to the complete and utter refusal by the Home Office, that there was anything wrong with this. And their complete refusal to listen to all of us, when we said time and again, that this wasn't acceptable. Oppenheim is extremely clear on this:
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That earlier meeting was a complete stonewall. I never reported it, as it was pointless. No one had agreed to my even mentioning who was present, and no single quote was ever agreed. I was personally attacked, several times, and accused of breaches of confidence with mothers and babies I have supported. Thankfully, I have always obtained signed consent forms for every aspect of support and publicity we give via Nursing Matters and I was able to refute those allegations. Further, we are still in contact with every mother and baby we have ever helped and can ask them to testify to this. We continue to support most of them to this day.
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Especially if you got a "Quite all right dear, there's nothing to worry about, I'm sure it's all as it should be." response from your MP. Those MPs need to hear these words far more than the ones who responded "I'm shocked and will be following this up."
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Because, intrinsically, those "there there dearie, there's no problem" MPs are part of this problem.
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Part of the complacency that allowed the senior Home Office managers in that meeting in September, to sit and stonewall us, and accuse us of wrongdoing, whilst they carried on maintaining it was perfectly acceptable not to feed a three month old baby.
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Part of the complacency that allows senior civil servants and contractors for the Government, to act completely outrageously (3rd paragraph).
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So where does this letter leave us? Well, it does stop short of a complete apology to Baby C and her mother. As such.. well, this letter isn't designed for that. I do know Alison did request that a letter of apology should be sent direct to the family, and I do have some confidence this will happen. I'll update at the bottom of this post, if, and when, it does.
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Aside from that, I am very happy with this letter. I am very happy with the acknowledgement of the incident, that the Children's Champion at the Home Office agrees with our complaints that it should never have been allowed to happen, and that the delays and refusing to listen should not have occurred. The whole stitch in time tone sits well with me. Brian Pollett was informed by me, personally in email, that evening, before Baby C ever got hungry, about what had happened. Senior management at Serco have stated that they knew about the situation within minutes of my first phone call to Yarl's Wood, so they did have time to act before Baby C became distressed. Her mother, of course, was already in a state of extreme anxiety. If they'd acted then, and just gone to Bedford Hospital, or sent baby there with her Mum, she'd never have gone hungry in the first place.
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However.
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Well... you know.. much as I like this letter. Most of that is just sheer relief that someone is listening. I'm totally on board with this letter, and the meeting that took place. I feel it is an honourable letter, and one that should be applauded. Well Done! round of applause
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However.
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Whilst, in itself, it's a good letter... well, there's a lot still missing in this situation, isn't there? Oppenehim says that he should have been in touch earlier... why wasn't he? We've made a huge fuss over this affair, we mothers. We've blogged, written to MPs, complained, passed on details to journalists and had major television news coverage of the incident. His office, which I can't find a URL for, or any meaningful link to, has never responded. I've been supporting mothers and babies in Yarl's Wood for over eighteen months, and have never had any sense or suggestion from anyone that the pathway of progress led to the door of the Children's Champion Office. It was not mentioned at the meeting in Yarl's Wood. I've emailed literally dozens of officials and MPs and civil servants over alleged mistreatment, and actual mistreatment, of babies and children in the detention system, and contact with this office has never occurred. If you engine search, you get a plethora of hits on documents, debates, meetings and fervent activity. But no contact point, no explaining what this office does, how it can be approached, and how it deals with complaints about children's treatment in the detention system.
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One wonders if this office only became aware of the situation after MPs had been misinformed of their involvement?
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One wonder where this office has been over the past few years as stories of the systemic mistreatment of children detained in Yarl's Wood have become more and more public?